It was a day to remember. For Alan and Jessica, love was at the center of their wedding ceremony. We spoke of all the little real life moments that truly lead you up to your wedding day. We spoke of romance and laughter as they exchanged rings and shared their promises to each other.
When you stood before me, and shared a little glance toward each other I know I saw the true depth of your love for each other.
I wish you the most happy of happily ever afters.
What tips do you have for our ceremony?
It's a question I get asked often, so let me put pen to paper...or blog to post to offer you some of the little things I've learned over the last 10 years:
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND BE DAMNED THE REST
Yes, I'm serious, so many couples are worried for the happiness of their family and friends and guests that they loose sight of what it's all about. It's about celebrating your love. It's about your decision to be partners for your lifetime, it's celebrating the fact that you know together your stronger than apart.
So, when you plan your ceremony think of all the things your love represents, this is different for each couple and that's what you should focus on. Do you have an amazing group of friends that have supported you guys? If so, then make them a part of the wedding, have a large wedding party and celebrate the joy you find in those friendships. Or, do you feel it's the two of you against the world? If so, then keep it intimate and romantic and maybe it's just the two of you standing together before your guests.
KEEP IT SIMPLE
I have seen couples get lost in the little details and forget what the day is really about. It's about you and your spouse, about celebrating your decision to marry. For the ceremony at least, I think simple is best. Put the focus on the two of you and the words that will unite you in marriage. Spend extra time choosing your vows, spend time deciding what readings really speak to you and what you actually want to hear on your wedding day-those are the details to focus on for your ceremony.
DECIDE TO BE HAPPY
Make that decision right now, decide that your wedding day is going to be filled with happiness. That whatever happens you will find the funny and laughter in the moment and be happy. Something is going to go askew, different than the plan you had and you know what? It's ok! Your guests won't even know so, really it's you who will know and it's you who can choose how to deal with this deviation from the original plan. At the end of the day, your going to be married and that is what matters, everything else is literally icing on the cake!
Marriage 101 - it's all about respect
I'm 20 years into my relationship with my husband and I could not be happier with how things are going. I'm not talking about raising our kids or jobs, I'm talking about our relationship with each other.
We've grown up together and that was often times painful. It was hard to make mistakes and own them without feeling ashamed. It was hard to hear advice from my husband and really listen to it.
I am happy to say that we have reached a point where we can offer each other advice and we actually hear and listen to each other. We've learned to listen, even if you don't like what your hearing. To really hear what the other has to say and give them the basic respect as your partner to at least give them time to speak.
Heck I even seek out his advice. He's a really smart, ethical and level headed person; he always has been. I on the other hand am a bit more emotional, type A, jump first think later type of person. But...together we are an amazing team. I can motivate us and he can draw up the plan to make it work and together we get the work done.
So, in your own relationship offer respect to your partner and show that respect by listening to them, hearing what they are saying and really digesting their opinions and ideas. I'm not saying you have to act on it, just respect them enough to listen and hear.
It's true, you have to have a license to get married legally in the state of Michigan.
Many couples are not aware of this and at the least are unsure of how to obtain a marriage license. Have no fear, I'm here to help!
Information from the Oakland County Clerks Office is posted at www.oakgov.com and reads as follows:
How to do a unity ring warming ceremony during your wedding:
You don't have to have any sort of unity ceremony during your wedding ceremony, but for some couples they want to add a special something, and this ring warming ceremony is a great way to invite your guests to be a part of your wedding ceremony.
Do I have to have a unity ceremony?
The simple answer is no, you do not have to have anything in your ceremony that you don't want to have. Yes, it's that simple, well, working with me it is.
First let's understand what a unity ceremony is. It is a symbolic gesture to show the blending of your two individual lives into one united married life.
Some traditional ceremonies include a unity candle, unity sand, chocolate sharing, beer pouring, wine blending, heck anything you can think of can be used to do a unity ceremony.
I tell all the couples I work with that if you want to add a little something extra to your ceremony, go for it! But first, think of how it represents the two of you and how, it should be something that when your guests see it they say "oh, that's so them" not "why are they pouring sand into a vase?"
Their are many ways to make a unity ceremony more personal. For example, if your sticking with the traditional lighting of the candles then perhaps right before you light the unity candle we can invite your mothers or parents forward to light the individual taper candles and we can explain that in lighting these candles they are honoring that the children they raised now stand before them as amazing adults and that they support the joining of your lives in marriage and they welcome your spouse into their lives.
Or if you have chosen a tree planting ceremony, you could bring with you dirt from each of your parents homes, using this dirt to blend your lives on your wedding day.
Remember though, a unity ceremony is not required. It is perfectly acceptable to skip it altogether. If it does not feel right to you, then don't do it.
Feel free to ask me for suggestions on a unity ceremony and how to make it your own. I am always happy to share ideas and suggestions with you.
It may have been 7 degrees outside, but it was warm and just delightful in the Howell Opera House.
Adeline and Travis found me on the world wide web and through emails and chats decided to book my services. I was so excited that they chose me to share their words of love and unite them as husband and wife.
The gentlemen wore elegent tuxedo's with tails and the red details. The bridesmaids wore a complimentary shade of red and looked stunning. The flower girl and ring bearers made a grand entrance full of smiles and cuteness. Adeline wore a stunning white beaded dress that suited her perfectly - she was a vision of light and love.
We chose ceremony words that were sweet and loving and showcased their effortless love for each other. They made the choice to write their own vows and once again I could see the love they have for each other. Their written words and promises to each other were carefully put on paper and as they recited those words to each other we all got a little misty eyed to simply be in their presence. I was happy to share a reading titled Love is Friendship Caught Fire by Laura Hendricks and I Love You by Roy Croft. In my closing statement I asked them to take in the moment but to also look into the future to dream of what is yet to come. And with a few more words and a pronouncement of husband and wife they sealed the deal with a kiss!
As with every ceremony my hope is that you enjoyed the time spent with me, that I was able to make your cermeony stress free and relaxing. To you Travis and Adeline I wish you the happiest of happily ever afters - Cheers!
Sometimes you don't need a ceremony and in that case I have just the thing...a simple Justice of the Peace, signing of the license!
The fee begins at $50, I will meet you at a local coffee shop or park or resteraunt where we will simply sign the marriage license, make a quick "I do" and you will be legally wed.
You are required to bring two witnesses over 18 years old with you to sign the license with us.
You will also need to apply for and obtain the marriage license.
So weather your getting married out of the country and want to save the hassle and make it legal here or you simply don't want the fuss, email me and we can make that appointment today.
Anna and Derek were married on December 23, 2016 at Longacre House in Farmington Hills, Michigan.
The House is gorgeous with a lovely bring walkway leading to an appropriatley decorated double front door, it was so welcoming.
Once inside a grand staircases greeted me and the reception area was off to one side and just down the hall was the ceremony locaiton.
Anna and Derek wanted an intimate ceremony with just about 65 guest in attendance the atmosphere was warm and cozy and calm.
For the processional they chose to again keep it intimate and simple, with their parents already seated the processional began with their wedding party, two couples and then Anna and Derek made their entrance together...it was breath taking. It was also a very lovely statement, to enter into their marriage together from the very start and equal partners in their wonderful relationship.
I was honored to share their ceremony with them and to hear their guests little gestures of aww and see them wipe a tear of happiness away.
After the ceremony we met upstairs in the bridal suite to sign the license and then the two were off for a few family photos and to have a lovely dinner.
Thank you for choosing me to share your day with, it was such a joy to unite you in marriage - Nichole