I had an amazing time at the wedding of Jake and Ashley. Her hard work in putting together the picture perfect details definitely paid off. The venue had hints of pink and rose gold and it was so very elegant. The violinist at the ceremony added so much ambiance that I was just in awe when Ashely began her walk down the aisle. As I looked at Jake and saw the biggest grin I knew that they were so very in love.
Bringing the moms up to light the candles during the ceremony adds such a special touch and is a wonderful time to pay tribute to the work they did in raising their children. The unity candle was complete when Ashley and Jake together lit their candle.
The couple had the most applause and smiles I have ever seen as they took their walk back down the aisle as husband and wife! It was such a pleasure to witness the joy their friends and family had for them.
Photo Credit: Crosby Photography
You may be considering asking your guests to refrain from taking pictures - but your worried you may offend someone, what should you do?
Creating an "unplugged" wedding ceremony is a wonderful thing. Before smartphones and iPads took over our time and attention guests would actually sit back and enjoy a wedding ceremony. They would be part of the joining of the couple in marriage.
Today everyone has a camera in their hand and at the ceremony they are all looking to "get that shot". Trust me, I understand, it's exciting and you want to document it and send those amazing photos to the couple. But let us think about this...
If we ask the guests to put down the camera's, cell phones and recording devices and to actually bear witness to your wedding ceremony. The ceremony that you took such care to create, the time you spent making sure the wording was just right. Then when the professional photographer takes those photos it will include your guests emotions and reactions - not just their face covered with a cell phone. It will document that awe inspiring moment that they saw you walking down the aisle and their reaction to the grooms face. It will capture their happiness and joy as your pronounced husband and wife.
So I say, take the time to create an unplugged ceremony.
Write a note on your wedding website to include the wording "We are honored to have you all as witnesses to our vows and the beginning of our marriage. We invite you to be truly present at our ceremony, and respectfully request that all cameras and phones be turned off. We look forward to sharing our professional photos after the big day!"
-oh and if you have doubts, just google "guests cameras ruined ceremony" those images will certainly persuade you to at least consider it.
Planning a wedding involves a lot of time, effort and attention to detail - most of which is spent on the dinner/reception portion of your wedding day. So much thought (and money) goes into the music, the food, flowers, linens, decor and signature drinks that it can sometimes leave you feeling like "I just want to get to the party".
Planning a short, simple and yet sweet and elegant wedding ceremony is possible!
Here's what I have learned...your guests are also excited about the "party" I mean who doesn't love a good dinner, drinks and dancing? But, they also want to have witnessed the reason for the party - the joining of you and your partner in marriage.
No formal wedding ceremony should be under 15 minutes - this is the bare minimum of time you should spend standing for the ceremony portion of your wedding day. This will allow you and your guests to feel like you have witnessed an actual wedding ceremony and not feel as if you blinked and missed the whole thing.
The words you select for your ceremony can be simple and elegant, if your not wanting an overly emotional and personal filled ceremony it's OK - I have been able to write many wedding ceremonies that are direct in tone and yet have a loving overtone so that you and your wedding ceremony guests are left smiling, laughing and ready to celebrate.
Best thing to do is to tell your Officiant exactly what you want - make it known that your happy to be getting married but a lengthy ceremony just is not what you want on your day. Remember, it's YOUR wedding day and you should have exactly what YOU want.
**when contacting Nichole about your wedding ceremony please feel free to let her know you want the simple and short ceremony.**