If you have read my site then you know I started this amazing profession by performing my sister's wedding ceremony. It was amazing! But, I had no clue what I was in for. I wanted it to be perfect for her and her soon to be husband. I researched the internet for ideas and suggestions.
We did create a lovely ceremony and I was thrilled to have been a part of her wedding day.
That said...if only someone could have shared with me some tips and tricks...it maybe, this very first wedding I ever did, could of been even better!
I know how amazing it can be to have a close family member or friend preside over your wedding. So, I am offering my helping hand.
Let me help this person so they can have an amazing experience and create a wedding ceremony that is out of this world for you! (not to mention, take the pressure of of you and them)
Here is what I am offering:
Consultation $150 for one hour session
If your planning to have a friend or relative write and perform your ceremony consider hiring me to consult with them.
I will go over some of the most important things I've learned in the past 7 years of performing over 1,000 ceremonies. I will show them some sample ceremonies and provide a ceremony outline so that they can easily create a loving and heartfelt ceremony for you. I will also go over the processional and recessional order for them - who walks with who, when and how they stand.
I will review how to complete the marriage license and how to properly file it.
Writing the ceremony is one thing but taking charge of the room, reading the guests and speaking with love and excitement are other things to consider. I will have a conversation with them answering any questions they may have and providing as much information and resources as I can for them (and you).
Let me take some of the pressure and nerves out of it for your beloved hired family or friend.
To include children:
Presentation of the children: Have an older child wheel the baby down the aisle in a decorated wagon. This can be done at the same time that the flower girl and ring bearer walk down. Decorate the wagon with tulle, fabrics and flowers. If your baby isn't big enough to sit up, be sure to put her in something that is secure so that she will not fall out.
Gift: While the couple speaks the vows, allow the baby to be a part of it. Present the baby/children with a trinket, such as a small piece of jewelry, to formally show that the baby/children is as much a part of this new union as the couple.
Vows: Recite vows or a poem to the children/baby after you recite your own vows; speak to the love of joining a new family today.
Sand Ceremony: Let your baby/children help with the sand ceremony. Since a baby cannot hold and pour the sand, designate a special vase just for him. While the mother or father holds the baby, have the wedding Officiant announce that the vase represents him as part of the family. Then the mother or father can pour the sand in the vase for the baby. Save a bit of the sand from that day and keep it in an enclosed vase to display in his room, up high on a shelf, as a keepsake for him to treasure for years to come.
How do you plan to include your children in your wedding ceremony? (new ideas are always a wonderful thing to share)
Practice your pacing and timing of your processional
Your processional is the walk down the aisle, generally it begins with the Officiant followed by the groom and his parents, the mother of the bride and her escort, your bridal party and finally the bride and her escort.
Sure, you'll select the right music, the right order of people and all that great stuff; but let's talk about pacing and timing.
You want to allow for spacing between each person walking down the aisle, this space allows for a clean photograph and a grand entrance for each person. Also practice your pacing, you want to walk down the aisle at a nice lea surly pace...you don't want to run and you don't want to go too slow.
So at your rehearsal if there is not a coordinator on hand to release each couple for the processional pick a landmark, a tree a column whatever may be available as a marker for when each couple will begin to walk down the aisle, for example, "when the couple in front of you reaches "that column" (usually half way down the aisle) then the next couple will begin their walk down the aisle.
So, whether your keeping it traditional and striding down the aisle in a formal manor or if you've made the bold choice to buggy down the aisle, be sure to talk about pacing and timing for your processional.
Or - make it easy and hire me to help with your rehearsal :-)
Your wedding day is almost here, you have purchased the dress, the suit, the flowers, picked the perfect venue and selected the most fitting music and food and cake! Now what? Time to put it all together and do a little practicing.
The rehearsal is not required but is suggested. It allows for the couple and the bridal party and the parents to set their minds at ease knowing that they have done their very best to make the wedding day as picture perfect as possible.
At your rehearsal you can expect to practice walking down the aisle, doing a quick run through of the ceremony and practicing any intricate details you have included. You will also practice your exit.
Now, here's where having a professional on hand makes it all the more worthwhile. whether your venue provides a coordinator to run the rehearsal or you do it yourself or you choose best option - hiring me to do all the heavy lifting; these pro's know the in's and out's of a wedding ceremony. We can help you with the little things like, who sits where in the front row? What order do the attendants walk in, are they walking in couples or will the gentlemen be standing at the alter already? Who holds the rings and how do they pass them off to the couple? When you make that final walk down the aisle as newlyweds - where do you walk to? When do you sign the license? Will there be beverages at the ready when you are done? And lastly all the little tips in between that make your ceremony pictures amazing! Things like where do the guys put their hands? Are all the ladies holding their flowers the same? Is the officiant versed in moving out of the picture at all the right moments (the last thing you want is your officiant in the background of your kiss shot!)
When you hire me to run your rehearsal chances are things will run very smoothly, we will address all of your questions and calm all of your nerves, and don't worry it only takes me about 40 minutes to accomplish all of these things - so you can move on to your rehearsal dinner or cocktail party!
Do yourselves a huge favor - hire a pro to help you with your rehearsal so that you can sit back and enjoy your wedding day!