What tips do you have for our ceremony?
It's a question I get asked often, so let me put pen to paper...or blog to post to offer you some of the little things I've learned over the last 10 years:
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND BE DAMNED THE REST
Yes, I'm serious, so many couples are worried for the happiness of their family and friends and guests that they loose sight of what it's all about. It's about celebrating your love. It's about your decision to be partners for your lifetime, it's celebrating the fact that you know together your stronger than apart.
So, when you plan your ceremony think of all the things your love represents, this is different for each couple and that's what you should focus on. Do you have an amazing group of friends that have supported you guys? If so, then make them a part of the wedding, have a large wedding party and celebrate the joy you find in those friendships. Or, do you feel it's the two of you against the world? If so, then keep it intimate and romantic and maybe it's just the two of you standing together before your guests.
KEEP IT SIMPLE
I have seen couples get lost in the little details and forget what the day is really about. It's about you and your spouse, about celebrating your decision to marry. For the ceremony at least, I think simple is best. Put the focus on the two of you and the words that will unite you in marriage. Spend extra time choosing your vows, spend time deciding what readings really speak to you and what you actually want to hear on your wedding day-those are the details to focus on for your ceremony.
DECIDE TO BE HAPPY
Make that decision right now, decide that your wedding day is going to be filled with happiness. That whatever happens you will find the funny and laughter in the moment and be happy. Something is going to go askew, different than the plan you had and you know what? It's ok! Your guests won't even know so, really it's you who will know and it's you who can choose how to deal with this deviation from the original plan. At the end of the day, your going to be married and that is what matters, everything else is literally icing on the cake!
I try so very hard to write a ceremony that is approved by the couple, we work together to tweak it until it is just write for their wedding day. Once done, it stands as words on paper, ready to share with family and friends.
But on the day of their wedding, I do my best to convey their love and emotion, the couples joy and beauty to their friends and family as I read these words on paper. I speak with emotion, I speak with confidence and I speak with a smile.
I want your family and friends to feel the effort and work each couple put into writing the perfect words on paper. I want the couple to hear the words we worked hard to perfect spoken with love and beauty.
It's my job and my duty to speak emotion into the written words of your ceremony. And I kind of love it :-)
It's important to have each of your professional vendors on the same page for your wedding ceremony. Somethings to talk about:
Make sure each Pro has a copy of the ceremony. They will be well informed of the layout of the ceremony and any ques that may make their work a bit easier.
Talk to your videographer, DJ, musicians and photographer about where they can place equipment, where they can stand or move to. It's important that your Pro's know what you would like. Talk to your photographer about being discreet - not coming past the first row to take pictures and not being intrusive of your ceremony. Talk to your videographer about where he will place any recording devices; make sure they are out of the way of the photographers shots and that they follow the same guidelines of not being intrusive or not coming past the front row of seats as well. It's also important to talk to your DJ or musicians on where they will place their equipment or set up to play. Will the DJ provide a microphone to use; if so, is it on a stand or handheld or lavaliere? What do you prefer? If it's on a stand that mic will be in all of your photos.
I know what your thinking, "they are the Pro's, shouldn't they know this stuff?" Well, yes but each Pro and each venue are different...and each couple is different. Addressing these items will open a conversation to allow you to have the best ceremony for you!
Know that if you hire me, I do my best to talk to each Pro on site the day of your wedding. I will ask each Pro to abide by the front row rule (unless you want something other) i will also make sure they are aware of ques and general information that will allow each of us to work to our best potential and to create a wedding ceremony that is as close to perfection as possible.