How to have a perfect Ceremony
Weather! It's unpredictable but always a good idea to tell your guests if your cermeony is outdoors. Put that info on your save the date, invitation, website, t-shirts...you get the idea. It helps guests come prepared; think shoes, umbrella, coat, water, mittens - whatever they may need.
Outdoor Ceremony! When having an outdoor ceremony I always think of grandma sitting in the hot sun or cold weather; I've got a thing for old people...I love them! And in order to make your guests comfortable it's great to provide water, umbrellas or some sort of cover for shade, personal fans, warm blankets for those chilly October ceremonies. Hey, the happier they are the more dancing and fun they will have later on with you!
It's Raining! First, don't fret over things you have no control over - that's a life motto right there! When your planning your wedding day, see the indoor back up location, ask to see pictures of it all set up, ask if there are options, find out all the info. I know you are dreaming of that sunny outdoor ceremony but if it's pouring its such a relief to know you planned for this and it's okay. There are some venues who offer amazing indoor locations - search for them, use them! It's Michigan and weather is very unpredictable especially for weddings. And if it does rain make the call early to move it inside so your floral and DJ have amble time to make it beautiful.
Make it Personal! Make your wedding ceremony personal. I mean, it's your wedding day it should be all about you. I work with each wedding couple to create a ceremony that tells their love story, so on your wedding day your guests are reminded of how you got to be standing in front of each other making the choice to be married.
Write your own vows! This one is something you will not regret. It may feel overwhelming and too much, but it's really not - carve out a hour or two and sit down and write. Begin with what you love about your partner, what do you admire about them. Recall the reasons you chose to marry them and what you look forward to in your future together. Oh and for good measure throw in a few promises or vows "I promise to do the dishes when you cook" I promise to fold the laundry" I promise to be your champion and cheerleader" things that are personal to you.
Music! It can be traditional of course...but...what if you turned it up a notch, what if you brought the unexpected to your wedding day? Find a song that you love that speaks to the both of you and rock that jam during your ceremony. Usually you need one piece for the bridal party, a piece for the bride and a recessional song. Again, make it personal.
First Look? Your photographer is so not going to like my answer...NO. I'm a hopeless romantic, I love the magic of when the couples sees each other for the first time at the aisle. There is so much built up anticipation and joy that you can't recreate that! So knock out as many photos as you can without seeing each other before hand, extend your cocktail hour, move your ceremony time up to account for proper lighting and save your first look for the wedding ceremony aisle, it's freaking magical okay!
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It's a question I get asked for many different reasons "how long is the ceremony?"
Generally speaking most venues plan 30 minutes for the ceremony (unless your in a church with your pastor then they can often be longer).
I work within that 30 minute window. I plan for 20 minutes, this includes the time walking up and down the aisle so my speaking time is usually 17 ish minutes. I plan for a 20 minute wedding ceremony because something usually happens and we run a few minutes late. It could be those last few guests arriving, a sudden bathroom need or a lost shoe! Either way, allowing a 10 minute window helps so no one feels rushed or anxious about starting right on time.
Now, I do make every effort to start right on time so that the rest of your wedding day time line stays in tact, but rest assured you will get married and everything will fall into place even if we start a little late.
There are so many things to plan and think about and consider for your wedding, it's a lot to take on! Many couples choose to plan their own wedding...meaning not hiring a wedding planner. And trust me when counting pennies I understand that paying someone else to do something you think you can totally do yourself just does not make sense.
But, consider this...Hiring a wedding planner may actually help you stay on budget! Your planner knows tips and tricks to help you plan an amazing wedding all within your budget. So budgeting for a planner may just pay off.
Their are so many benefits to having a wedding planner - they know things we simply don't know. They are aware of all the nitty gritty details involved in the wedding planning process. Oh and best of all, on the day of your actual wedding you don't have to worry one bit about setting up, decorating, making sure everything is perfect, taking on last minute questions or gasp - clean up! Nope they got that!
There are a lot of facilities that don't have a coordinator on site to do all the set up and clean up for you, so in fact you are on your own to see it all get done. And speaking specifically about the ceremony it's so nice to have someone on hand to help your guests be seated, to make sure your dress is picture perfect before you go down the aisle and to help space out those attendants so you have picture perfect ceremony pictures! I mean, yes, I'm all in during your ceremony, there to land a helping hand wherever necessary, but I'm one person and when I take my place at the "alter" I can't help fluff a dress or send the attendants down the aisle.
So, take a look, talk to a couple wedding planners and see if you can find your wedding day magic fairy.
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I give you this ring
as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.
As I place it on your finger,
I commit my heart and soul to you.
This is one of my all time favorite statements for the ring exchange ceremony. It's sweet and romantic and evokes a certain emotion of endless love and commitment.
There are so many options for choosing the right words to recite as you place the ring on your beloveds finger - you can search the internet, draw from poetry or create your own personal statement. Whichever you chose make sure the actual act of exchanging the rings is smooth and effortless.
As you place the ring on your loved one's finger, place it half way on and then recite the words, then place it the rest of the way on. This way you remain holding their hand for the entire process.
Look into their eyes as your saying the words - let them see your sparkle.
Lastly, if the ring gets stuck at the knuckle leave it where it lays and let the other person place it the rest of the way on - this way your not "shoving" the ring on their finger.
I hope these few tips help to create a magical wedding day for you.