Hand Ceremony; you are asked to join hands as I or someone of your choosing reads the following:
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Wine Box/Love Letter; You are asked to write each other a love letter and bring them on the day of your wedding along with a bottle of wine placed in a decorative box. During the ceremony we explain that the Wine Box should be opened on your 5th wedding anniversary.
“Today _____ and _____ bring with them a love letter. I asked that they write this letter to each other expressing what qualities they liked in each other and what about their partner stood out and why they wanted to marry this person. They were asked to seal these letters without reading them to each other.
______ and _____ will place these letters in a box along with a bottle of their favorite wine and will seal this box.
The box should be put in a place of honor in your home so that when you look at it you are reminded of the love that you shared today, your wedding day.
On your fifth wedding anniversary you should open the box, share a glass of wine and read the love letters. It is a wonderful time to celebrate the years you have shared together and to be reminded of all the qualities your partner has that first drew you together.
However, if before your fifth anniversary you should have a disagreement, a moment that the two of you can not seem to find a common ground. I would suggest you take a moment to open the box, have a glass of wine and read those love letters.
Even if you are not seeing eye-to-eye at that very moment, it will remind you of all the reasons you choose this person as your partner and all the things that helped shape the life they've created together. And just maybe that disagreement won’t seem so bad and you can again find a common ground to move forward on.
Ring Warming; Your wedding rings are placed in a box or decorative baggie and at the beginning of the ceremony we announce that we will be doing a ring warming ceremony and today as we pass your rings we ask that each person hold the rings, place a kind thought upon them and pass them onto the next guest. When we do the ring exchange we remind the couple that the wedding rings you will wear have been so blessed by each of your guests today and we hope that in years to come when you look at your rings you remember your guests with love and kindness.
During this ceremony _______ and ______ will exchange rings. These rings are visible signs of their commitment to one another.
As this ceremony proceeds we ask that you, _____ and _____ community, take part in the warming of the rings. As each of you receives the rings, we ask that you take a moment to wish them health, happiness, and a meaningful life together before passing them on to the next person. When these rings come back to them, they will contain that which is priceless: your love, hope, and spirit.
[GROOMSMAN TAKES RINGS OUT AND HANDS THEM OFF TO CLOSEST PERSON IN FRONT ROW]
Please bring the rings forward.
[GROOMSMAN RETRIEVES RINGS AND BRINGS THEM TO COUPLE
Wedding bands are visible, tangible symbols of a couple’s commitment and of their emotional and spiritual connection. Many people talk about rings as being a perfect circle, having no beginning and no end. But we all know that these rings have a beginning. Rock is dug up from the earth. Metals are liquefied in a furnace at a thousand degrees. The hot metal is forged, cooled, and polished. Something beautiful is made from raw elements.
Love is like that. It comes from humble beginnings, made by imperfect beings. It is the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.
Let these rings serve as a reminder of the feelings you have in your hearts at this very moment. There are times in life that we tend to focus on the things we have not yet accomplished, there will also be times of great loss. Yet as you look at your wedding band, remember the great gift that you have been given and all that you have in one another. Remember that you have someone to share this life with. Never again will you walk alone.
Stone Ceremony; A basket of stones are set next to an empty “gathering” container; the guests are asked to hold a stone, wish a kind thought and place said stone into the gathering container, if the stones are large enough the guests may write their name on it. The stones are then set in a place of honor in the couple’s home or garden. During the ceremony the couple will each hold their own stone and think their own kind thought and place them in a container .
How to do a unity ring warming ceremony during your wedding:
You don't have to have any sort of unity ceremony during your wedding ceremony, but for some couples they want to add a special something, and this ring warming ceremony is a great way to invite your guests to be a part of your wedding ceremony.
Do I have to have a unity ceremony?
The simple answer is no, you do not have to have anything in your ceremony that you don't want to have. Yes, it's that simple, well, working with me it is.
First let's understand what a unity ceremony is. It is a symbolic gesture to show the blending of your two individual lives into one united married life.
Some traditional ceremonies include a unity candle, unity sand, chocolate sharing, beer pouring, wine blending, heck anything you can think of can be used to do a unity ceremony.
I tell all the couples I work with that if you want to add a little something extra to your ceremony, go for it! But first, think of how it represents the two of you and how, it should be something that when your guests see it they say "oh, that's so them" not "why are they pouring sand into a vase?"
Their are many ways to make a unity ceremony more personal. For example, if your sticking with the traditional lighting of the candles then perhaps right before you light the unity candle we can invite your mothers or parents forward to light the individual taper candles and we can explain that in lighting these candles they are honoring that the children they raised now stand before them as amazing adults and that they support the joining of your lives in marriage and they welcome your spouse into their lives.
Or if you have chosen a tree planting ceremony, you could bring with you dirt from each of your parents homes, using this dirt to blend your lives on your wedding day.
Remember though, a unity ceremony is not required. It is perfectly acceptable to skip it altogether. If it does not feel right to you, then don't do it.
Feel free to ask me for suggestions on a unity ceremony and how to make it your own. I am always happy to share ideas and suggestions with you.