What tips do you have for our ceremony?
It's a question I get asked often, so let me put pen to paper...or blog to post to offer you some of the little things I've learned over the last 10 years:
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND BE DAMNED THE REST
Yes, I'm serious, so many couples are worried for the happiness of their family and friends and guests that they loose sight of what it's all about. It's about celebrating your love. It's about your decision to be partners for your lifetime, it's celebrating the fact that you know together your stronger than apart.
So, when you plan your ceremony think of all the things your love represents, this is different for each couple and that's what you should focus on. Do you have an amazing group of friends that have supported you guys? If so, then make them a part of the wedding, have a large wedding party and celebrate the joy you find in those friendships. Or, do you feel it's the two of you against the world? If so, then keep it intimate and romantic and maybe it's just the two of you standing together before your guests.
KEEP IT SIMPLE
I have seen couples get lost in the little details and forget what the day is really about. It's about you and your spouse, about celebrating your decision to marry. For the ceremony at least, I think simple is best. Put the focus on the two of you and the words that will unite you in marriage. Spend extra time choosing your vows, spend time deciding what readings really speak to you and what you actually want to hear on your wedding day-those are the details to focus on for your ceremony.
DECIDE TO BE HAPPY
Make that decision right now, decide that your wedding day is going to be filled with happiness. That whatever happens you will find the funny and laughter in the moment and be happy. Something is going to go askew, different than the plan you had and you know what? It's ok! Your guests won't even know so, really it's you who will know and it's you who can choose how to deal with this deviation from the original plan. At the end of the day, your going to be married and that is what matters, everything else is literally icing on the cake!